Why I Love Getting Older: 7 Reasons Getting Older is Pretty Great “I can’t die before learning French!” – me, five years ago, in a full-on panic mode, and going through a quarter-life crisis. Despite my panic, I didn’t actually miss being younger. I think that it was the number itself, that freaked me out a bit. More than the number 30, which would seem odd, if it wasn’t for the fact that by 30, I’d learned an important lesson from a very stylish, older gentleman. Whom I’ve never actually talked to. “I am not going to lie; that old man scratching his butt for the past five minutes is kind of distracting.”– I said to my husband while waiting in line with him during one of his regular trips to a completely-out-of-the-way, as in four-towns-over, deli. “Who?”– he turns around as if my gentle whisper wasn’t enough of an implication to not do just that. “Oh, that guy?”- he goes– “Well stop looking then, you perv. He’s here every Saturday. I’m pretty sure he does that every time he tries to remember something.” “Uhh…okay????”– me “Oh, come on now. He’s old. He ran out of fucks to give a […]

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50 Things That Make Me Happy + What Are Yours? It’s no secret that the last two, nearly three years of my life have been tough. I went through difficult, trying times. There were many “firsts” that I experienced during that time- most of which I wish I hadn’t. Being in a “rut” is definitely not as I’d describe it. More like “having the rug pulled from under your feet time and time AND TIME again.” Funny enough, those life-changing (or life-ruining, as I thought about them at the time) moments have a tendency to happen at a point just as everything is falling into place. Then boom. Here’s a giant shit sandwich, I hope you enjoy. Love, the Universe. I kind of gave up on many things during that time. Some of them because I had no choice, others I just had no strength or motivation to go after. All I kept thinking about, was how much I wanted things to go back to “normal” and how badly I wanted to feel (and act) like myself again. The problem is that when you do go through tough times and change, you’re not really the same person you once were. […]

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Fear of failure is one of those things that can leave you feeling paralyzed. It can be the one thing that stops you from going after what you want in life. There are times when you’re so afraid of failure that you decide not to try at all. Having stronger self-esteem and more confidence can help you overcome that fear. Take control of your self-esteem and confidence, and you can take control of that fear; you can take control of your life. Building up your self-esteem and confidence doesn’t necessarily meant that that fear will disappear forever. Most likely, it will not; it will always be there, hidden somewhere deep. Having that confidence and believing in yourself though, can help you feel that fear and go after your dreams, anyway. It can help you will find the strength to beat that fear, to break through the wall. The strength to say: “I might fail, and that’s okay because if I do, I’ll try again.” This can be as simple as changing a few of your habits, but “simple” doesn’t always mean easy. Not if your struggle with your self-esteem and confidence is a life-long battle. Building your self-esteem and confidence […]

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Growing up, we were constantly told to be kind to others. To be polite, nice, and accepting. I don’t know about you, but I was never thought much about being kind to myself. There are so many different relationships you have in your life. Some are more complicated than others; some require some work while others feel effortless. Undoubtedly, one of the most important relationships in your life is one you have with yourself. So, how do you nourish it? I think that to some extent, we all have internalized a belief that being overly kind to yourself, is a little… indulgent or even selfish. We tend to be harsh and judgmental towards ourselves. Once you find ways to be kinder to yourself, it’s almost as if you are suddenly reminded of common humanity. You remember that mistakes are just a part of life, so there’s no need to beat yourself up over them. 7 WAYS TO BE KINDER TO YOURSELF 1. FORGIVE Most of us have gone through some kind of struggles in the past. The beautiful thing about life is that we don’t have to hold on those ugly bits or things that bring us shame, things that […]

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Not. Good. Enough. If my life had a theme song, that would be the title. I’m not exactly sure where my desire for that constant perfection came from, but it was here, for as long as I can remember. Actually, I’m not entirely sure if it’s so much of a desire to be perfect, as it is a paralyzing fear of failure. It doesn’t matter if I’m cooking, cleaning, working, blogging, exercising- I’ve always felt the need for everything to go and be…. perfect. I’m not talking about the drive and need to excel- because there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I’m talking about the constant need to control the outcome of every possible situation. I’m talking about obsessive double-triple checking, putting yourself down and never acknowledging your victories, however small or big. Perfectionism is often linked to depression and anxiety. I don’t need to read any research papers that prove this because I’ve suffered from both. Right now though, I am mostly in a great place in my life. Even though I’ve had a really rough year with my loss and my recent injury, I kind of finally understand what it means for things to “fall into place.” […]

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